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It was over 20 years ago, but the pain has resurfaced again now because I have started seeing her Facebook posts about how great her life is. I feel so angry. How can I handle this? | Affairs and infidelity are tough areas to address. The power of the affair comes from the feeling of injustice that seems to have happened to you. The struggle I notice people have is with the forgiveness. Forgiveness is something that is asked of you from your partner but also you have the power to give. I assume you ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
What makes a healthy marriage last? | This answer varies based on you relationship. However, I do believe their are some basic fundamental areas that are beneficial for a healthy marriage:1.) Effective Communication2.) Trust3.) Love/Passion4.) Loyalty. 5.) Unconditional Positive Regard. Everyone has their favorite qualities they feel best fit a marriage. H... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
We've been in a long distance relationship for two and a half years. I recently saw his phone and saw the people he texts the most and one of them was a female coworker. I don't know how to approach this situation. How do I ask him about it?. | The best way to get an answer is to just ask. I would defintely let him know you are asking out of concern and not to judge or criticize. Allow him to explain his answer and see how you feel about it. Try to ask him when you both are already discussing other topics and just say, "Can I ask you something?" Earl Lewiswww... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | Hi there! Thank you for your question. It's a great question and one that many people want to know the answer to. The short answer is, YES! Counseling can be very helpful to people struggling with many different things. There has been a lot of research conducted to prove that counseling is an effective way to help peop... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | Counselling offers a number of ways to help one to improve their situation. For some, this process can take a very long, winding path of self-discovery, while, for others, they are seeking a purposeful, solution-based way to approach and manage a specific problem. It's important to remember that there are different st... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | There are multiple ways that counseling helps people. The most basic is that it gives you someone to talk to about and through what you are facing. It is better than a friend because this is a space for your stuff and you get to focus on what you need and don't have to worry about the other side. This is also a place w... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
On the first day of school I wore a bra that was too big so that it would look like I had bigger boobs. I did that the whole school year and my parents never found out. But now I can never hang out with my friends at my house or invite them over because it would be around my parents and my friends would see there is n... | Sometimes we let our insecurities get the best of us, causing us to make some interesting choices. Honesty is always the best policy, but honesty comes with risk. Perhaps you may want to start with your family first, explaining to them what you have done and why. Perhaps they can help you to practice talking about yo... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I have been diagnosed with posttraumatic stress disorder due to my military experiences. Not a year ago, I had a car accident. Could this experience add more problems? | A car accident can be a traumatic event. Especially, if it was serious, you could have feared for your life, felt everythingvwas out of control and had normal reactions to an abnormal situation afterwards. This may or may not be related to the traumas that you experienced in the military. If it is then it is possible ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've been depressed for quite a while. I've been trying to work through it, and my boyfriend has been my rock. He is honestly the only person I trust enough to talk to about anything, but he decided to break up with me because of my depression. I cannot afford to see a therapist or anything, so he saw no hope in stayin... | It sounds like you have been struggling with this for quite some time, using many of the same coping techniques that feel tried and true to no avail. Often, we fall back on coping techniques that would be helpful in other problems (stress, social anxieties, etc.) for our depression, but the truth is that depression req... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | A counselor can do a few things that can be helpful:1) Give you a space where you can explore what's in your head without worrying about being judged or punished.2) Help you better understand yourself, your choices, your motivations.3) Give you tools and information you can use to help create change in your life. Ultim... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | Hard to say a whole lot without knowing more. However, if you focus your attention on her, what she's saying, what she's feeling instead of trying to make yourself heard and understood first, that's often a good step. Also, work on building win-win agreements with her, and follow through on them. Those are the areas I ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm 17 and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past.
Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a be... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
What makes a healthy marriage last? | This is a fantastic question. In one sentence, I would say the following:Recognize that while you and your partner probably have common interests and areas of commonality, you are separate people, each with different wants, wishes, and desires – if you consider a diagram of two overlapping circles, they may share perha... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | Counseling provides a safe environment for people to explore the beliefs about the challenges in life. The various types(modalities/techniques) of counseling serve as guides for specific individual's personal journeys. | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | Hi! Great question. I believe counseling does help people! Of course, I am a therapist, so I would think that! :) Seriously - I think therapy and counseling allow us to understand ourselves, our motivations and the things that bring us happiness and discontent. Therapy can create opportunities to try new skills and... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Often times I find myself thinking scary thoughts and sometimes I even scare myself into thinking that something bad is going to happen to me. Once it starts, the thought continues going through my head and I can't get it out. How can I stop these thoughts? | Such a great question! I'm so sorry you are struggling! You may be experiencing Intrusive thoughts. These are thoughts that seem to come from no where and victimize us. I can strongly recommend a book called "When Panic Attacks" by Dr. David Burns. It helps you to identify the thoughts, and the help you create ways ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | Counseling definitely helps people! I have seen so many positive changes from those willing to engage in the counseling process. Having a safe place to openly share concerns with an objective listener really is therapeutic and can make a huge difference in your life. Many times people don't feel heard or validated... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I love my girlfriend so much. I get an erection even just thinking about her or seeing her. But the two times we tried to have sex I couldn't get an erection. We've only had sex once and it was a long time ago.
Why this is happening and what can I do about it? | Sexual desire seems to be straightforward - I like someone and I become aroused at the thoughts of being intimate with them - but that idea does not always take into account other factors. Stress can have a huge effect on our body and how it performs. When we are overstressed, for example, we often find ourselves ill ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Every winter I find myself getting sad because of the weather. How can I fight this? | Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) is a term that reflects how many people are affected by the changing seasons, especially fall to winter. Everyone suffers with some form of this (lessened activity levels, increased isolation, etc.) while some find that this time of year can put them into a deeper depression. If yo... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My depression has been reoccurring for a long time. It all started when I was being bullied in high school. In ninth grade, my principal told me I needed to stay home for a couple days to protect myself while she spoke to my classmates. I needed professional help for my stress because I was having crying spells from th... | I couldn't help but notice that you did not specify your age, so I am unable to set the total chronological order and length that you have suffered in this way, but I want to start by commending you on seeking out additional coping techniques on your own. Unfortunately, it sounds like you were offered some that were m... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Every winter I find myself getting sad because of the weather. How can I fight this? | Light therapy is very helpful. You are not alone. The name for the condition is Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). You might want to see a therapist to assist you putting in place a behavioral program to help change the way you feel. | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My girlfriend just quit drinking and she became really depressed. She told me that she wants to move. What can I do to help her? I want her to stay. | After stopping the abuse of alcohol, depressive symptoms are common. She may benefit from exploring why she wants to move and see if she would still want to move if she did not feel depressed. 12 step meetings can also be helpful. | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | Yes, counseling helps a lot of people, especially when there is a good rapport between the counselor and their client. Knowing your counselor is someone who is really on your side and wants to see you grow past your difficulties into a healthy, happy, successful life is more important than what kind of counseling metho... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I love my girlfriend so much. I get an erection even just thinking about her or seeing her. But the two times we tried to have sex I couldn't get an erection. We've only had sex once and it was a long time ago.
Why this is happening and what can I do about it? | This is something I have
had to address with individuals often since working with couples is one of my
practice's focuses. The answer can depend upon several reasons all which
tend to be explored while in session. If you or your counselor utilizes
an integral approach, in which one of the main premises makes sure... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Every winter I find myself getting sad because of the weather. How can I fight this? | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... | |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... | |
Every winter I find myself getting sad because of the weather. How can I fight this? | Thank you for sharing. It seems like since the "winter blues" happens to you every year it may also be impacting your quality of life and possibly relationships. What you report sounds like you may be experiencing Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and is quite common to many from about fall thru winter seasons; but, al... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I love my girlfriend so much. I get an erection even just thinking about her or seeing her. But the two times we tried to have sex I couldn't get an erection. We've only had sex once and it was a long time ago.
Why this is happening and what can I do about it? | First off, I want to acknowledge the emotional pain you must be experiencing about not being able to experience an erection -- you're not alone. And, it took a lot of courage for you to post your query here. Below you will find excellent advice from skilled clinicians regarding your question and concern. If you haven't... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Every winter I find myself getting sad because of the weather. How can I fight this? | There can be lots of different factors contributing to this. Here are some possible tips:Consider if you know anything about what specifically is making you feel sad? If you're looking for activities because you cannot participate in what you like to do in the warmer months, consider finding some indoor winter activiti... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | A lot of things affect how helpful counseling is for each person, including at least these things, but often many others:The therapeutic alliance (this refers to the bond, connection, or trust between the client and the counselor)What the person is coming in to work onHow motivated the person is to work on what it is t... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My brother has been diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and has not been taking his medication. He's been using methamphetamine and alcohol and was found sleeping naked in my step mom driveway in 12 degree weather.
I was adopted in by his dad (who just passed) and his mother will not Get involved because she's afr... | Thanks for asking this question. I know it can be really difficult to deal with issues like this.To answer your question, you might be able to get you brother some mental health help, even if he doesn't recognize that he needs it. In most states, an individual can request a mental health evaluation of a family member i... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My brother has been diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and has not been taking his medication. He's been using methamphetamine and alcohol and was found sleeping naked in my step mom driveway in 12 degree weather.
I was adopted in by his dad (who just passed) and his mother will not Get involved because she's afr... | I'm sorry to hear that your brother has been having such a rough time. He's lucky to have you on his side (although he may not always see it that way).As far as whether you can sign him in, that depends on a lot of different things.I would suggest that you Google the state and county that you live in as well as some ph... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm 15 and my girlfriend is 14. Am I a pedophile because I'm attracted to her and she's under 18? | You are not a pedophile. You are both under 18 and your age is appropriate for a relationship. There would be a possible problem if she was 10 or younger. Pedophelia, is a whole other problem that you probably should not be worried about. I would be happy to talk with you in more detail about this. | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm a Christian teenage girl, and I have lost my virginity. My boyfriend is a Christian teenager too, but things just got out of hand between us in a sexual manner. I planned to abstain from sex but I guess I wasn't clear about this because I was also tempted and led him on. We continued to have sex. Does it mean that ... | Having sex with your boyfriend is and was a mistake. Mistakes can be forgiven and you can make amends.But it is not the end of your relationship or God's will for you.Have a serious talk with your guy and get back on track with where you want to be. Talk to a counselor or your priest/pastor. Get someone to be your guid... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | Counseling can go a long way in improving your mental health. Counseling helps you to get new perspective on your life and problems.Talking about your problems with a counselor gives them substances and something to get a handle on. Talking about your problems gives you a chance look at your situation from a new angle ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | Counseling allows us to have a sacred space, a space that is set apart from the outside world, it is a space of non-judgement and exploration. Being that the universe is not made for us and that the the world tends to be a fairly untamed place at times, this sacred space allows us to explore ourselves. It allows for gr... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Every time I send a message to someone or a group message on Instagram, iMessage, or snapchat people will read my messages but then they won't answer me.
Could it be that there is something they don't like about me? I don't understand why they won't answer my messages. How do I get people to respond to me? | I'm sorry that you are having a difficult time.I wonder about how your friendships are in person. If you get along well with people and have effective conversations with them face-to-face, there could be some kind of technology-related problem.Have you tried gently talking to people about how you send a message and the... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My mother takes care of niece whom my sister abandoned. She calls me every day complaining, but I don't want to hear it anymore. | It is understandable that it's very hard for you to hear daily complaints from your mother regarding the caregiving of your niece. You cannot change your mother's feelings and responsibilities, which could create feelings of frustration and helplessness. It must be equally hard for your mother to assume full responsibi... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've never been able to talk with my parents. My parents are in their sixties while I am a teenager. I love both of them but not their personalities. I feel that they do not take me seriously whenever I talk about a serious event in my life. If my dad doesn’t believe me, then my mom goes along with my dad and acts like... | Teenage years are rough for anyone, and this is a time for self-discovery and experimentation. Having older parents can certainly pose challenges. Most kids feel like their parents don't understand them, but yours are older than the average parents of teenagers. They're from a completely different generation than you a... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've hit my head on walls and floors ever since I was young. I sometimes still do it but I don't exactly know why,
I have anxiety and I had a rough childhood but now I'll start to hit my head and sometimes not realize it but I don't know how to stop or even why I'm doing it.
How can I help myself to change my ... | The best way to handle anxiety of this level is with a combination of appropriate medication given to you by a medical doctor, and therapy to help you understand the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are causing the anxiety. This is not something that anyone should just “white knuckle” and try to get through on t... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I know that I need to get past my feelings for this person I fell in love with, but t's so difficult to move on because he showed me feelings I've never felt before.
I feel like I don't want to be without my genuine love for him, but logically, I know I need to be without him. I can't discuss this with anybody in ... | It's difficult to move on and let go, especially when you've experienced things for the first time with someone, or feelings you've never felt before, as you said.I like the fact that you are looking at your situation "logically". Feelings can take time to fade, but you seem to understand, even if it is subconsciously... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My mother takes care of niece whom my sister abandoned. She calls me every day complaining, but I don't want to hear it anymore. | Buy the book "Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin." Read it. Apply it.Seriously, I'm not joking. You're not wrong to "not want to hear it anymore" but if you don't maintain healthy boundaries, you will allow your family to make you feel guilty for "not wanting to hear it anymore". That's not fair to you.Give a copy t... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I don't remember when the voices in my head started, but I remember Hearing them when I was little.
I know it's not normal to hear voices that aren't your own. I fight the voices and I want them to stop. They've been here so long and I want them gone. How can I make the voices stop? | This isn't something you can do on your own. If you haven't already, you need to see a medical doctor ASAP to rule out medical causes for this. Many diseases, illnesses, and conditions can cause hallucinations. In the elderly, sometimes it's something as simple as a urinary tract infection. Some medicines may have that... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
There is just no communication at all between us. She sleeps constantly all day (not at night). She acts angry and unfocused and stays in her very messy room all the time. The only time she comes out is to eat.
She has aches and fatigue, weight gain, hair loss and skin problems. She does not look after her healt... | 1. She's an adult.2. She lives in your house? She follows your rules.3. What you're describing could be any number of things, but could potentially be a medical issue that needs attention. Thyroid issues, autoimmune diseases - there's a ton of medical possibilities for her symptoms. I'm not a doctor; this is a forum of... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My brother has been diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and has not been taking his medication. He's been using methamphetamine and alcohol and was found sleeping naked in my step mom driveway in 12 degree weather.
I was adopted in by his dad (who just passed) and his mother will not Get involved because she's afr... | Family members sometimes get Power of Attorney over vulnerable adults. If you had this, you could do something like that. I'm assuming that you don't, though. There are steps family members can take through the court system to get someone involuntarily committed, but it is a long process. I deal with situations like th... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm 15 and my girlfriend is 14. Am I a pedophile because I'm attracted to her and she's under 18? | No, that's perfectly normal. You're under 18, too. You're only a year older than she is. This is absolutely normal. What would be wrong is if you did anything to her against her will. Always remember that NO means NO, respect her, respect yourself, and be a normal teenager! Have a healthy relationship. Holding hands, k... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've never been able to talk with my parents. My parents are in their sixties while I am a teenager. I love both of them but not their personalities. I feel that they do not take me seriously whenever I talk about a serious event in my life. If my dad doesn’t believe me, then my mom goes along with my dad and acts like... | First, thank you for sharing such deep personal information. It can be difficult to share such intimate information. To begin, it sounds likes your primary concern your desire to speak to someone who takes your mental health seriously. You've tried talking to your parents and your friends and neither have made that con... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My mother takes care of niece whom my sister abandoned. She calls me every day complaining, but I don't want to hear it anymore. | I just want to understand before I answer. Who exactly is complaining? | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I have been married for 11 years. Within the past 2 years we have drifted far apart. We coexist together but there is very little personal interest in each other. I often feel that my husband has "friends" at work that he is more emotional invested in than me. I feel very alone and just uncared for. Is there anything ... | Absolutely. Your question shows that you are going through a lot of pain and I'm sorry for that. Many couples go through this disconnect and hope to come to reconnect before things get to a breaking point. What I think can help is the following: 1.) Understand what his primary concern is2.) Understand what your primary... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Every time I send a message to someone or a group message on Instagram, iMessage, or snapchat people will read my messages but then they won't answer me.
Could it be that there is something they don't like about me? I don't understand why they won't answer my messages. How do I get people to respond to me? | Sorry to hear your friends aren't responding to you. If these friends are in-person as well as online, perhaps going to them in person and asking talking to them about your concern. Perhaps it's the way you send messages or the way they are receiving them. if they say no, then a simple request to respond to your messag... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm 15 and my girlfriend is 14. Am I a pedophile because I'm attracted to her and she's under 18? | No. You are not a pedophile. You are both under the appropriate age where it would be seen so. Your both only a year a part so this shouldn't a worry to you. Like Frank said below, Pedophelia is a problem that won't apply to this situation. | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I know that I need to get past my feelings for this person I fell in love with, but t's so difficult to move on because he showed me feelings I've never felt before.
I feel like I don't want to be without my genuine love for him, but logically, I know I need to be without him. I can't discuss this with anybody in ... | One of the most challenging areas for people to deal with is getting over the the person you have loved so much. It's a catch 22. You know mentally that it's not healthy to think about them. However, your feelings are still there. Moving on is tough. It takes time for feeling to go away. That's the thing, it's not the ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Cheating is something unacceptable for me but because we have two daughters I decided not to break up the family.
However, now I am struggling to forget and forgive what happened. I feel like I cannot trust him. Without trust, I cannot stay in this relationship. On the other hand, I do not want my children to get hurt.... | To begin, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Like many of the professionals have stated, infidelity is a very difficult obstacle to move forward from. It's not impossible. While forgetting is probably the hardest part, forgiveness is something that can and will happen. There are things you can do to help yourself.... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My fiancé and I have been together for 3 years and our relationship has always been good. The only issue we had was that he felt like he wasn't getting enough sexual attention from me.
I recently found out he cheated on me with another women. He says he wants his family back but I'm confused on what to do. Is it ... | Hello. Thank you for your question. Many couples that experience infidelity in their relationship face this important question - "is it possible for us to get past the cheating, or should I just move on?" Deciding to stay or leave is such a personal decision, one that only you can make.When an affair is disclosed or fo... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My fiancé and I have been together for 3 years and our relationship has always been good. The only issue we had was that he felt like he wasn't getting enough sexual attention from me.
I recently found out he cheated on me with another women. He says he wants his family back but I'm confused on what to do. Is it ... | Finding out about an affair is quite an emotional experience. It's usually jarring. I encourage you to give yourself some compassion about emotions that you have.You asked whether it is possible to get past the cheating and the answer is that it can be. It depends on many factors.I would recommend that you see a therap... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
What makes a healthy marriage last? | A resource I think is helpful to learn more about "what makes a good marriage" and steps toward doing so is Dr. John Gottman's book: "Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work." Dr. Gottman is a leader in this field and has done extensive studies with couples to determine what behaviors are key in making a marriage wor... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? |
I believe that counseling (and finding a GOOD therapist)
will be of significant help when the individual seeking therapy desires change,
improvement, and overall growth. Most counseling involves homework and a level
of commitment outside of session that also contributes to resolution of
problems and an ability to... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've never been able to talk with my parents. My parents are in their sixties while I am a teenager. I love both of them but not their personalities. I feel that they do not take me seriously whenever I talk about a serious event in my life. If my dad doesn’t believe me, then my mom goes along with my dad and acts like... | One of the most difficult challenges we face is not being heard! It is incredibly frustrating and hurtful when others, especially parents, do not listen. While your parents surely love you and want to understand you, it may be difficult for them to fully understand your feelings and experiences. They are quite a bit ol... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I know I need to deal with my depression. But I don't know how and I don't want to tell anyone.
How can I deal with depression without telling anyone? | Hello,It is completely understandable that you would not want people to know about your depression. I would first like commend you for realizing that you need to help with your depression by reaching out here. That is a great start, and you've taken the very first courageous step. Depression can feel debilitating and o... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I have several issues that I need to work through. However, I am afraid of and do not trust therapists after a horrible experience. I'm dealing with grief and guilt over losing my sons due to drug use. I have a very complicated traumatic relationship issue that is causing me severe anxiety and fear. | I am sorry that you had this experience. Therapy should be a healthy positive experience off g growth. You have the right to look for certain high qualities in a therapist and finding the right one. Each therapist is bound by a code of ethics and clients should have high expectations. You are trusting them to guide, su... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I don't remember when the voices in my head started, but I remember Hearing them when I was little.
I know it's not normal to hear voices that aren't your own. I fight the voices and I want them to stop. They've been here so long and I want them gone. How can I make the voices stop? | First, let me express my support and compassion for what you're going through. Hearing voices can be incredibly difficult and can feel like you can't get a moment's peace, even in the privacy of your own mind. And not everyone will necessarily understand what you're dealing with, so I imagine you may also be feeling is... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
We're in an eight year relationship. My boyfriend drinks a lot. He experienced childhood trauma. I don't know how to deal with violent outbursts. | First, let me extend my compassion to both of you -- it sounds like you have a lot on your plates. Childhood trauma carries its negative effects into our adulthood and affects everyone who loves us. Your question is brief, so I'll just try to give general answers as best I can. From my experiences treating many people ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My brother has been diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and has not been taking his medication. He's been using methamphetamine and alcohol and was found sleeping naked in my step mom driveway in 12 degree weather.
I was adopted in by his dad (who just passed) and his mother will not Get involved because she's afr... | Hello, My heart goes out to you, your brother, and your family, dealing with a very painful and difficult situation. In New York, you can't institutionalize someone else directly. You can, however, call the police or EMS. If they agree that he would benefit from hospitalization (and it sounds like they would), he can b... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I am in my 30s with 2 kids and no job and I'm behind on the bills. I've been trying everything with no results. I feel like everyone else puts their needs in front on mine. I give intil it hurts and I'm afraid that I'm going to fail my babies
I've been struggling for 5 yrs in a relationship with no communication a... | I would want to know where do you put your needs? Often times we show people how to treat us based on how we treat ourselves. First identify how to practice good self care which can only happen when you are authentic and real about your needs and desires. You cannot pour from an empty cup and must take find the time to... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My mother takes care of niece whom my sister abandoned. She calls me every day complaining, but I don't want to hear it anymore. | It is difficult to implement healthy boundaries when the person is a parent or family member. I would encourage you to identify how it makes you feel after talking with your mother. Work on establishing healthy boundaries where you do not feel obligated to engage the complaining daily. Maybe setting a time limit to tal... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Every winter I find myself getting sad because of the weather. How can I fight this? | Seasonal depression can be difficult due to the weather being a primary trigger. Understanding that we have very little control over the weather, therefore we can focus on the things we can change. Exercising, meditation, guided imagery, and deep breathing can be beneficial to combat seasonal depression. It may help to... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm obsessing about a terrible breakup. Everything is a constant reminder. How do I move on? | The best way to move on is to give yourself sufficient time and space away from your ex so you can heal. That means no checking out your ex on social media platforms and no contact. In order to move on and diminish the obsessions, help yourself recognize and accept that the relationship is over, and make sure to get ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've always thought that there wasn't much good out there for me. Now that things are actually going well, it kind of scares me. I spent most of my life feeling unwanted and figured I would be alone. I recently met a great woman who seems to really like me, and I don't know how to process this. It's bothering both of u... | Hi! Thank you for your question. It's tough to be in a healthy and loving relationship when we believe we are not worth it. Quite often being in such a relationship is very uncomfortable as it goes against everything we believe about ourselves. First, I want to say you are very brave to open up yourself to the relation... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I have PTSD. The side effects are really bad and have impacts on sex, anger and my relationships. I even lost my job month ago.
How can I get my life back? | Hi there, I hear you, PTSD has a very debilitating effect on your whole life. I know that from personal experience. Recovering from it is possible and doable! First is step is to acknowledge to yourself that your PTSD symptoms are a normal reaction to an abnormal and traumatic event. The nightmares, the anxiety, the he... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My mother takes care of niece whom my sister abandoned. She calls me every day complaining, but I don't want to hear it anymore. | This sounds like a possible boundary issue. Boundaries are important in relationships. They are invisible lines that we will or will not cross. It is up to us to create and hold them. We have the ability to rethink them and change them as needed. It sounds like you have thought it through and would like to makes change... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm a female in my mid 20s. Lately I tend to over drink and I've become a very angry drunk.
In the past, I have even cheated on my boyfriend while I was under the influence of alcohol.
But now, even if I don't do anything wrong and don't embarrass myself, I still feel really guilty after a night of drinking. I... | Hello, I commend you for your courage in taking a look at the role alcohol has in your life. It sounds like you're concerned about what happens when you drink too much and I suspect you already know the answer to your question about whether you have a problem or not. I imagine you would like to stop feeling guilty and ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My ex-wife married and used me to have a child. She now uses that child as a pawn. I know my child misses me, but I need to move on and not live in the past. How do I do this? Do I see my child as much as possible or very little? Is it more confusing for the child? | You're in a difficult situation and on behalf of you and your child, I commend you for trying to find the right thing to do.Short version: your child needs you as much as possible. period. Always. We used to think that children were almost always harmed by divorce, unless there was extreme conflict or violence. More re... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I am going through a very hard time and I'm so depressed. My parents are getting a divorce and a lot of bad things are happening. I want to lull myself. | It sounds like a tough time and it's normal to feel down when your family is going through a divorce or other hardship. There's a difference between feelings like sadness, discouragement, grief, loneliness and depression, though. Sadness is sadness and sometimes we have to go through a grieving or other process, that i... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've always thought that there wasn't much good out there for me. Now that things are actually going well, it kind of scares me. I spent most of my life feeling unwanted and figured I would be alone. I recently met a great woman who seems to really like me, and I don't know how to process this. It's bothering both of u... | You're in a lot of good company and it's great that you're in a positive relationship. Congratulations!I often hear people talk about loving yourself and self esteem. We often seem to blame ourselves for not "loving ourselves" enough or put ourselves down for having low self esteem. It seems to me that since we are ess... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in therapy is totally ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | I would be more concerned with how is this being addressed in therapy. Therapy can be a rewarding process, however often times we do not pay much attention to the messages being sent to our bodies. I believe in somatic therapy which deals with our mind & body connection. I would think it may not be a question of normal... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | Thank you for your question. It's completely normal and natural to feel nervous before a therapy session. Many people report having felt this way. I can't say enough regarding the amount of courage it takes to reach out and attend a therapy session. For many people, it can take weeks, months, or even years of contempla... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | Everyone has different experiences going to therapy. Being nervous can be a typical emotion one might feel. Emotions are our body's way of telling us important information about ourselves. I would suggest talking openly in your sessions about this. That way you can process your thoughts and feelings with the guidance o... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | Hi there, Thank you for your question. It's absolutely ok to feel nervous going to therapy. I have experienced anxiety going to see my own therapist. There can be a few reasons why you might feel this way. First, it is always unnerving to see a person who is a stranger and to share intimate things with that stranger. Y... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My husband and I have been married for seven years, and in that time, we have only had sex four or five times. Others have told me that most men would have left me by now. Honestly, I think I have a low sex drive or neither one of us actually knows what we are doing. I want to be better connected with my husband. | Hi there, Thank you for your openness about the challenge you are experiencing in your relationship. Sexual intimacy is an important part of many people's life, but how much importance is placed on it varies from couple to couple. The first step would be to have an open conversation with your husband. It's important yo... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm obsessing about a terrible breakup. Everything is a constant reminder. How do I move on? | Hi, Break ups can be very devastating and even traumatic. Recovering from one is a process that is unique for everyone person and will take time. It's important that you don't compare yourself to others. Each and every person will experience this grieving process differently. Here are a few tips to help with your recov... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "Normal" can be an insidious word to use because it can undermine your sense of worth. It implies there's one particular way you should be behaving and can leave you feeling crappy and "abnormal" if you're not behaving according to that prescribed standard. Instead, what I'd recommend is to pay attention to your emot... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | Hello there. You ask about being nervous and shaky walking in to your therapy session and want to know if its normal? ... I realize there a few ways to look at this. I presume you weren't anticipating feeling this way; and probably hoped to feel the opposite.. Well, my initial response is yes, sure, it can be withi... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | It's normal to feel a little anxiety--after all it's an important encounter for you. My suggestion is to discuss this with your therapist, let him/her know how you're feeling, especially if you feel as though your level of anxiety is impacting the quality and benefit of your sessions. You might try some relaxation te... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I am becoming a Water Safety Instructor but I didn't have enough for a proper swimsuit. I was told by a boy in class that my top was displaying everything. I was very embarrassed. | As far as I can tell, you received unwanted attention, but you didn't do anything wrong. What did your instructor say? Anything? If the outfit was not appropriate then the instructor should tell you--If he/she didn't then assume the swimsuit was okay, but the gentleman in the class wanted your attention and took it up... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My ex-wife married and used me to have a child. She now uses that child as a pawn. I know my child misses me, but I need to move on and not live in the past. How do I do this? Do I see my child as much as possible or very little? Is it more confusing for the child? | If you have a good relationship with your child then you have already accepted and been accepted as this child's parent and you have a commitment and an obligation to play that role. If you suddenly absent yourself from this child's life then you may be doing real damage. Working out an arrangement with the child's mo... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm always listening to my husband, but it feels like he never listens to me.
How do I get my husband to listen to me instead of me listening to him all the time? | Have the two of you ever discussed how you feel? I know given the nature of your question that's probably not likely, but I'm going to suggest it any way. He needs to understand that how you feel about this issue equates to not being as happy in the relationship as you could be or he thinks you are. So start there, ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've been suppressing it for quite some time, but there are days when I can't make eye contact with her. I think she knows, and we both admitted there was some type of vibe, but the overall discussion was vague. I think she could possibly be dating someone that works with us. It's driving me crazy. As an act of express... | There are many possible ways dating your boss could go awry and jeopardize your occupational well-being so my recommendation is to hold off on presenting your boss with a personalized gift and instead focus on building attraction and romantic interest with someone who is not at the workplace. Sometimes the element of ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've never been able to talk with my parents. My parents are in their sixties while I am a teenager. I love both of them but not their personalities. I feel that they do not take me seriously whenever I talk about a serious event in my life. If my dad doesn’t believe me, then my mom goes along with my dad and acts like... | I'm sorry you feel so alone and isolated, those feelings in and of themselves can lead to depression, stress and anxiety. So job one is finding someone you can talk to. A good friend or an open parent can be as helpful as a professional counselor, but if you don't have those, then by all means call your local Mental ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. I've been really sad lately and for the past few months I've realized I'm just way too dependent on him. It makes me really upset to be so dependent on someone else, but I can't help it. I don't even know who I am without him.
How can I be less dependent on m... | Recognizing that you're too dependent on your boyfriend can be a wakeup call and an excellent opportunity to work on your own personal growth and independence. It sounds like it's time to explore and develop your own interests and engage in some activities that excite and challenge you. If you have time, it could be ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My husband and I have been married for seven years, and in that time, we have only had sex four or five times. Others have told me that most men would have left me by now. Honestly, I think I have a low sex drive or neither one of us actually knows what we are doing. I want to be better connected with my husband. | In order to develop a better intimate connection with your husband, it's important to first cultivate a strong connection with yourself. I would take some time to explore your own body, notice what feels pleasurable, and play with different ways to achieve orgasm on your own. Explore your own willingness to be open e... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | It is absolutely a typical response. Many of my clients are nervous the first couple of times we meet. This is essentially a stranger with whom you are sharing your feelings. | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | of I would love to know a little bit more about what's going on in your life but I will attempt an answer.Yes, you could still be shaky and nervous going to therapy. This therapy thing your doing is sometimes scary. First, because your opening up things that you might have never wanted to. Second, your still building ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | Hello. First, I am so sorry you are experiencing these feelings. They can be intense, I will do my best to offer some suggestions or thoughts that I hope will be helpful to you. There could be a number of things occurring. Therapy is a delicate, private decision and I would first like to commend you for the fact that y... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I have family issues, and my dad was both violent and a cheater. | In general, our past is always somewhat alive and does inform our present experiences. All past experiences, both positive and negative are what have brought you where you are today, physically and emotionally. That being said, your father's behavior does not have to define you or your future. You have power over y... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm very depressed. How do I find someone to talk to? | If there is no one in your life with whom you feel comfortable, I would recommend identifying someone on this site, psychology today or goodtherapy.org who is in your area, then give that therapist a call to see if you would be a good match. | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My boyfriend is in Ireland for 11 days, and I am an emotional wreck. | It sounds like you and your boyfriend are very close. Do you typically spend most of your time together? If so, it may be important to reflect on how you feel when you are apart. If any separation is difficult, you may need to examine why. Think about what it is that you miss and what you are anxious, upset or worr... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | Certainly. | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My boyfriend called me a particular profanity and I broke up with him. This is the third time he's called me this and I'm just completely done with giving him chances. He knows how much it bothers me. I just want to know if I'm over reacting. | It sounds like you are reacting to an issue in communication patterns, rather than a particular word. The ability to listen considerately to your partner and to have your partner listen to you is one of the keystones of a successful relationship. If your partner is not listening to, acknowledging and remembering your... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My fiancé and I come from a strong Christian background but both went off the "straight and narrow" once before. He is having a hard time accepting my past, especially that I'm not a virgin. He has a hard time in general accepting himself and others.
His insecurities are hurting our relationship. How can I help hi... | One of the sometimes difficult things about being in a relationship is the fact that you can make goals for yourself, but you can't make goals for your partner. If your fiancé wants to learn to live more in the present and learn to let go of the past or move in a different direction, you can certainly assist him, but y... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
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