text: Conservatives practice a tough love approach that my grandparents used when they said to me What's the matter you ,you can do better, only they say to nonwhites like myself yes can succeed, you don't need to have standards lowered or quotas set to be able to achieve the American dream. You are not poor little things who need the help of whites , you can stand on your own two feet. Stop feeling sorry for yourselves show others you have the right stuff. All of us who or nonwhite should be seeking to emulate people who have succeeded in the face of obstacles who said like Farragut,  damn torpedos full steam ahead. We all need to take charge of our own lives and our own welfare and not slide into a state of dependency.