text: I'm a Unitarian, Nathan, and we welcome those from a variety of beliefs and religious backgrounds--and also value human interaction highly, as we do acceptance and avoidance of (Old Testament) negative labeling.
  So while I disagree with your church's positions, I really appreciate your reaching out and attempting to expand the dialogue.  
  Quite often, over a beer, people are able to find common (interpersonal) ground.  Unfortunately that doesn't change the devastating multi-century effects of official religious institutions' positions on women and (all types of minorities).
  As Dr. King believed, the "Arc of history inevitably bends toward justice" (especially for women and all minorities).  You may be a decent guy.  Your church has some doctrines that aren't, and finding out--over a beer--that you're a decent guy won't change that.