TITLE: Intuition for the role of diffeomorphisms
QUESTION [21 upvotes]: I understand the general role of isomorphisms in mathematics.  If two groups are isomorphic, they are indistinguishable by group-theoretic means.  If two topological spaces are homeomorphic, they are indistinguishable by topological means.  And so on.
However, I'm not quite sure if I understand the role of diffeomorphisms fully.  In Differential Geometry of Curves & Surfaces, do Carmo writes that "from the point of view of differentiability, two diffeomorphic surfaces are indistinguishable."  However, it is possible that two surfaces - say, the unit sphere and a sphere of radius 2 - are diffeomorphic although there are important differences: Because the diffeomorphism between them is a not an isometry, their inner geometry is different.  If a curve is moved by the diffeomorphism from one of the spheres to the other, it changes its length.
So, the inner geometry is not necessarily preserved.  But what is preserved?  What does a diffeomorphism do that a homeomorphism doesn't do?  (FWIW, I'm more interested in the intuition than in a technical description.)

REPLY [5 votes]: While all three answers are clear, I think a counter-example could be pedagogical. 

It is easy to think of homeomorphisms between smooth manifolds that are not diffeomorphisms: any bijective, continuous mapping whose coordinate representation for local maps are non-smooth functions should do. 
A pair of smooth manifolds that are homeomorphic, but not diffeomorphic is more difficult to find; such a counter-example can be constructed using "exotic spheres".

See also the related question Are homeomorphic differentiable manifolds actually diffeomorphic?