TITLE: Conjugacy classes in virtually nilpotent groups
QUESTION [6 upvotes]: Let $G$ be a f.g. virtually nilpotent group. Can an element $g\in G$ of infinite order be conjugate to its power $g^n$ for $n>1$?
Let $G$ be a f.g. virtually abelian group. Is it true that elements of infinite order have finite conjugacy classes?
Note that for the infinite dihedral group non-trivial elements of finite order have infinite conjugacy classes.

REPLY [4 votes]: For a virtually abelian group $G$, the issue can be settled with some Euclidean geometry. The general structural theorem for virtually abelian groups is as follows (this is a summary of the Bieberbach Theorems):

$G$ has a unique maximal finite normal subgroup $N < G$, 
The quotient $G / N$ is a Euclidean crystallographic group, meaning that is has a faithful, discrete, cocompact action (or representation) $G / N \mapsto \text{Isom}(\mathbb{E}^n)$ for some $n \ge 0$.

Here I am using $\mathbb E^n$ to denote Euclidean $n$-space, i.e. $\mathbb R^n$ equipped with the standard metric, and $\text{Isom}(\mathbb E^n)$ is its group of isometries.
Let me denote the composed homomorphism
$$f : G \to G/N \to  \text{Isom}(\mathbb E^n)
$$
Its image is a discrete group, and it follows that an element of $f(G)$ has finite order if and only if it fixes a point. 
The key facts regarding order of elements are as follows:

For each $g \in G$, the translation length $L_g$ of the isometry $f(g) : \mathbb E^n \to \mathbb E^n$ is a conjugacy invariant of $g$.
$L_g = 0$ $\iff$ $f(g)$ has finite order in $\text{Isom}(\mathbb E^n)$ $\iff$ $g$ has finite order in $G$.

So if $g$ has infinite order then it is a translation with translation length $L_g > 0$, and it follows that $g^n$ is a translation with translation length $n \cdot L_g \ne L_g$. Since translation length is a conjugacy invariant, $g$ and $g^n$ are not conjugate.

I suspect there is also a geometric solution to the virtually nilpotent case, as an alternative to the answer of @DerekHolt. In outline, $G$ still has a unique maximal normal subgroup $N$, and $G/N$ embeds as a lattice in a nilpotent Lie group $\Gamma$, and I believe that one can then proceed using the geometry of the left invariant metric on $\Gamma$.