TITLE: Understanding a basic permutation problem
QUESTION [7 upvotes]: I am failing to wrap my head around a solution to a rather basic problem:

At a party, n men and m women put their drinks on a table and go out on the floor
to dance. When they return, none of them recognizes his or her drink, so everyone
takes a drink at random. What is the probability that each man selects his own
drink?

The solution is: $$\frac{m!}{(n+m)!}$$
From what I intuit, $n!$ is the total permutations of the drinks among the men, and the above solution is the probability that all men get another man's drink, not necessarily that each one gets his own.
My solution was, there is a $\frac{1}{n+m}$ probability of the first man getting his drink, then $\frac{1}{n+m-1}$ for the second, $\frac{1}{n+m-2}$ for the third, ... , $\frac{1}{m+1}$ for the $n^{th}$. Resulting in a probability of $\prod\limits_{i=0}^{n-1} \frac{1}{n+m-i}$.
Can someone explain their thinking when approaching this problem?
EDIT
Issue arose from confusing variables and failing to identify that $$
\begin{align}
\frac{m!}{(n+m)!} &= \frac{m!}{(n+m)(n+m-1)...(n+m-(n-1))(m!)}\\
&= \prod\limits_{i=0}^{n-1} \frac{1}{n+m-i}\\
\end{align}
$$

REPLY [3 votes]: Notes: The most directly 'Relevant' of the links in the margin seems to be this, which also discusses a Poisson approximation. Also, an answer here discusses simulation of a similar problem, but explanations of the Perl program seem sparse. [Other links discuss probabilities for the (simpler) classical problem of derangements of items of a single type.]

Comment: Simulation approximates your suggested answer (+1), @Lulu's Comment, and @NicNic8's Answer (+1), for a specific case.
Suppose the population consists of $n = 3$ men (numbered 101, 102, 103). and $n = 4$ women (numbered from 1 through 4).
Then the answer is $4!/7! = 0.00476.$
If we permute the population a million times and take the total score s of the population elements that
are in their correct positions, then the total
will exceed 300 precisely when all three men
get their own drinks. The proportion of a million scores exceeding $300$ should approximate the desired probability to about
three places.
set.seed(2021)
pop = c(1:4, 101:103)
pop
[1]   1   2   3   4 101 102 103

set.seed(2021)
s = replicate(10^6, sum(pop[sample(pop)==pop]))
mean(s > 300)
[1] 0.004821      # aprx 4!/7!
2 * sd(s > 300)/1000
[1] 0.0001385318  # aprx 95% margin of sim error

So the simulated value is $0.0048\pm 0.00014$ which includes $4!/7!.$
Notes: Demo of R code for one permutation:
set.seed(1234)         # for reproducibility
a = sample(pop); a     # permute sample
[1]   1   4 102   3 101   2 103
b = (a == pop); b      # in proper order?
[1]  TRUE FALSE FALSE FALSE  TRUE FALSE  TRUE
c = pop[a == pop];  c  # list who got own drinks
[1]   1 101 103        # two men got own drinks
sum(c)
[1] 205                # score