TITLE: Show that a positive operator on a complex Hilbert space is self-adjoint
QUESTION [8 upvotes]: Let $(\mathcal{H}, (\cdot, \cdot))$ be a complex Hilbert space, and $A :  \mathcal{H} \to \mathcal{H}$ a positive, bounded operator ($A$ being positive means $(Ax,x) \ge 0$ for all $x \in \mathcal{H}$).
Prove that $A$ is self-adjoint. That is, prove that $(Ax,y) = (x, Ay)$ for all $x,y \in \mathcal{H}$.
Here's what I have so far. Because $A$ is positive we have $\mathbb{R} \ni (Ax,x) = \overline{(x,Ax)} = (x,Ax)$, all $x \in \mathcal{H}$.
Next, I have seen some hints that tell me to apply the polarization identity:
$$(x,y) = \frac{1}{4}((\lVert x+y \rVert^2 + \lVert x-y \rVert^2) - i(\lVert x + iy \rVert^2 - \lVert x - iy \rVert^2)),$$
where of course the norm is defined by $\lVert \cdot \rVert^2 = (\cdot, \cdot)$. So my guess is that I need to start with the expressions:
$$(Ax,y) = \frac{1}{4}((\lVert Ax+y \rVert^2 + \lVert Ax-y \rVert^2) - i(\lVert Ax + iy \rVert^2 - \lVert Ax - iy \rVert^2)),$$
$$(x,Ay) = \frac{1}{4}((\lVert x+Ay \rVert^2 + \lVert x-Ay \rVert^2) - i(\lVert x + iAy \rVert^2 - \lVert x - iAy \rVert^2)),$$
and somehow show they are equal. But here is where I have gotten stuck.
Hints or solutions are greatly appreciated.

REPLY [8 votes]: Another solution is this one:
$T$ is self-adjoint iff $\langle Tx,x\rangle \in \mathbb{R}$ for every $x\in \mathcal{H}$.
Let $x\in \mathcal{H}$. Then $0=\langle Tx,x \rangle-\langle T^{*}x,x \rangle = \langle Tx,x \rangle-\overline{\langle Tx,x \rangle}=2i\operatorname{Im}\langle Tx,x\rangle  \iff \langle Tx,x \rangle \in \mathbb{R}$. Thus $T=T^{*} \iff \langle Tx,x\rangle \in \mathbb{R}$ for every $x\in \mathcal{H}$.
Because $T$ is positive we have that $\langle Tx,x \rangle \in \mathbb{R}$.