Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more, day by day,
You tell me of our future that you planned:
Only remember me; you understand
This shows her hesitation, or reluctance to go to the ‘silent land’. At this stage the speaker is not reconciled to death.  Life was fragile in Victorian times; even wealthy people died of infection and illnesses now treatable. Death occupied their minds and dominated their lives.
Remember