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| to yours. I remember that when I was in my late teens, one boyfriend asked me if I'd be |
| up for a certain kind of sex, and I refused. (He asked very gently, and didn't pressure me |
| when I said no, which made me feel much safer and happier with him!) At the time I |
| couldn't imagine ever wanting to do it. Then a few years later -- after I'd gained a lot |
| more sexual experience - I ended up asking my boyfriend to try it! I'm convinced that if |
| my previous partner had pressured me, I wouldn't have come around to it so easily years |
| later - and if he and I had still been together, then maybe we would have even done it |
| together. |
| ... But of course, the difficult part here is that sexual needs are important, and can't be put |
| on the back burner indefinitely. If you have sexual needs that are being routinely ignored |
| -- or can't be fulfilled -- by your partner, then it's obviously not desirable to keep gently |
| saying, "Don't worry, I can do without this." Still, I think that if you're approaching |
| ultimatum territory -- for example, if you are tempted to say that "If you can't satisfy this |
| need, then I need an open relationship so I can find someone who can, or else we have to |
| break up" -- then it's best to at least state the ultimatum gently, emphasize that you care |
| about your partner and this is difficult, and steel yourself to act quickly in case you have |
| to go through with your ultimatum. And, of course, to understand that this could make |
| sexuality with your partner more difficult if you keep trying to date through ultimatum |
| territory. |
| Sadly, sexual pressure can sometimes be simply unavoidable. Sometimes the best we |
| can do is be gentle, understanding, and prepared to face the consequences. |
| 2) Exposure to new conceptions of sexuality, sexual mentors, and sex education |
| Many gay people say they're "wired" for a certain approach to sexuality, but there's also |
| others, such as some BDSMers, who consider ourselves to be innately kinky. And we |
| often say that we would have come to those sexual conclusions and practices whether we |
| had examples before us, or not. (Even so, it's really helpful to have a community sharing |
| tips and emotional support, especially when it comes to alternative sexuality. It might |
| seem like sex will come naturally and obviously, but sometimes non-obvious things can |
| really trip you up!) |
| Still, there are lots of sexual ideas are worth exploring and wouldn't necessarily occur to |
| us if we didn't have examples before us: erotica, pornography, friends and mentors, |
| workshops and educational materials. Here's some concrete advice on how best to |
| emotionally access those: |
| * Find a good mentor, or at least a friend or social group, to talk about sex with - |
| who you don't want to have sex with. Being able to honestly discuss turn-ons in a |
| neutral environment is invaluable, as is someone who can guide and advise without |
| inserting their preferences and desires into the conversation. Naturally, it's entirely |
| possible to have a good sexual relationship with a sexual mentor -- and sometimes, |
| mentor (or friend) relationships evolve in unexpectedly sexual ways. But it can be very |
| useful to take that element out of at least some relationships. |
| One piece of advice that I love is for mentors to be the same "type." That is, for example, |
| if you're a heterosexual female submissive, it's awesome to have an experienced |
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